Ten Years After

No, not the somewhat mediocre (sorry, Alvin) band from the 70s (remind me to recount the tale of their concert at Red Rocks, where I spent part of my stoned evening hanging out with John Lennon). Rather, it's been 10 years since I wrote the Christmas post of darkness and dream.  Heres a very concise catch-up on much that has transpired since then. I'm still (lovingly) with Vincent. I'm a Gran to our dear little Wren now. I have completely reinvented myself as a Licensed Caregiver. I work, I laugh, I play, I cry, I dance and sing and love telling dad jokes. I seldom read anymore. I hurt a lot now...two types of arthritis has that effect. I own a 125 yr old house, a four yr old car, and enjoy the pleasure of two very lovely cats. I lead a small, quiet life, and generally content.

More anon...

Time, Time, Time…

See what's become of me

Time, time, time
See what's become of me
While I looked around for my possibilities

I was so hard to please
Look around
Leaves are brown
And the sky is a hazy shade of winter

And here I am. 71 years old, and no more clue about the why of me than I ever had. I suppose I know WHO I am, but even that could be argued. I just am. But this aging thing is confusing at the best of times. The good news, at least physically, is it turns out I really am my fathers daughter. Still strong and vigorous, I still move well. Mentally, well, I *think* I’m in good shape. Truth is, if something is wrong, it’d be hard to tell. “Something,” of course, is any form of dementia. Losing dad to dementia, I worried - in large part because I’m so much like him - that I was doomed to the same fate as him. But then I discovered a group of men he worked with on Eniwetok all suffered their demise due to Lewy Body Dementia. A series of TIAs, similar loss of facilities and other identical symptoms delivered the clear message that my dads dementia was environmental in origin. Years of working around nukes, especially the years spent retrieving spent nukes in the Marshall Islands..swimming and fishing and diving in those same waters..all that radiation ate away at his exemplary engineer’s brain, leaving potholes that ultimately stopped him in his tracks. But of course an environmental cause for his dementia meant no genetic gift to me. So if there IS some strange mental deviation lurking, growing, it’s all mine. My mother never lost her brain. But then, karma would dictate she bear witness to that which she wrought.

There’s more, but I’m out of interest in continuing right now. More later. So much more. It’s time I wrote about life again.

The Donald, and Hope

Found this piece I wrote in 2015, and am impressed by the clarity of my thoughts; I was right. 

I've been doing some deep thinking about the popularity of Donald Trump as a potential Presidential Candidate, and I have concluded he represents a final hope to the Working Poor and Middle-Class that they can achieve the Big Dream fed them by Madison Avenue and Wall Street. Never mind that Trump actually built almost none of his empire, but was given a fortune and the family corporation as a starting point. Obviously (to minds hungry for a possibility of an out from their wretched existences), if HE can say whatever he likes and be rewarded for it, so can anyone. And therein lies the ultimate half-truth of American Culture, for certainly the *possibility* exists for anyone to succeed here, but everything is stacked against it - with more and more impediments all the time. 

We have a beautiful mythology in the United States that says with enough hard work and ingenuity (something our mythology says we Yanks have a lock on), anyone can become a millionaire and maybe even President. Never mind whether becoming President is a good thing or not, and let's solidly ignore gender, race, or religion as roadblocks to THAT aspect of the Dream. The latest alteration to the Dream is that if you HAVEn't become wealthy, it's because you haven't worked hard enough.

The truth is, The American Dream is a White man's dream, and this is at the heart of the reason Trump is such a hit. With the perceived assault of gender questions, - Straight or Gay, Male or Female, racial tensions - Black lives DO matter, why aren't our police protecting rather than killing us, and ideologies - religion as a tool of divisiveness rather than unity. people feel more and more alienated from one another. Straight White men (and women), having been the Ruling Class for a VERY long time, are feeling more and more disenfranchised by society and culture, and thus are latching onto false icons such as Donald Trump as an essential tool to assuaging their fears of irrelevance, and ultimately, of complete loss as measured by the aforementioned Dream. To put it in simpler terms, people on all sides of the issues facing our Culture are scared, and all desire strong leadership out of the Box Canyon in which we currently find ourselves.  And love him or hate him, Trump DOES present the appearance of strong leadership.  Of course, so did General George Armstrong Custer, and  Moussilini

What we, as a Nation, Society, Culture, and People must do is find a way to help everyone feel included; a common ground upon which we can all agree. In the past, that has taken the form of a Great War, and that is something the World simply cannot afford.

Messages from Nature

For the third time this month, I have had a close and very interesting encounter with a snake, each in my backyard.  For those who are unaware, there are no poisonous snakes in the wild here in Western Washington, so although my wariness wrought from 30 years of living in Texas kicks in when seeing a snake, I no longer suffer a form of instant heart failure at the sight of one.  Two of the recent encounters have been interesting in that they are very similar to a series I had while living Texas.  Usually snakes prefer to take off when sensing an animal nearby, but this time - as in Texas - the snake stopped, turned, and looked right at me.  I moved, expecting the snake to slither away, but it didn't.  Rather, the snake stayed in place and just swiveled its head to watch me, precisely the same experience I had with a massive (7ft) Texas Rat Snake on Brushy Creek, north of Austin.  Now, I am one to study nature and its ways as an adjunct to my spiritual life.  So when I witness unusual behaviour, I pay attention.  Mindful of Snake's primary message of Transformation, a message that was very clear shortly after the Texas experience, I sat down and considered what I was being shown/told.

I'm at yet another stage of my life in which big changes are occuring. I'm in my early 60s, and there are clear and obvious physical changes happening.  I'm transforming again, this time transitioning into what may be my final phase of life.  I need more sleep suddenly, my bones hurt more, I have less stamina, and I'm not nearly as sharp as I once was.  I'm starting to show my age finally, and it's really strange.  But the thing about the snake message is, I don't think it's transformation of aspects related to my age to which I'm supposed to attend. Rather, I think it's more about something else...some way of thinking that will change my way of being. 

Best Purchase of the Year

Every year one purchase made ends up standing out as a real winner. Some of the winners have been things I knew I wanted, but didn't realise how much they would change my life/give me pleasure. The second half of the 2000s have seen a shift, though. Instead of buying things I knew long in advance I wanted, the more recent items have been thoughtful impulse (hey, I AM known as "The Pragmatic Pollyanna") items, and all have in common the sheer surprise in how USEFUL they are.

Just to give you a little history.. In 1987, it was a much longed-for PC AT, in 1991, a leather motorcycle jacket, in 95 a Black Volvo, and 1998 a beautiful house of my very own.

The 2000s started off slow, with tools for house remodeling such as the RotoZip being the focus of my life, though 2004 saw the purchase of a giant television - named "Sumo" because it was "the gigantic Japanese guy in the corner," and 2005's best was a set of trekking poles for walks I hoped to take on the beach and in the mountains once I got back to the Northwest.

2006, and Towanda the Wonder Bus entered my life, along with For Sale signs on the house. In the driveway, while a steady stream of people flowed through my beautiful home, I turned my school bus into an rv/rolling studio. We closed one week before all the terrible economic news that began the downturn, and off we went in Towanda, back to Western Washington.

2007's best purchase was an electronic label maker, in 2008 I found Copic Markers (the art world may never be the same), 09 and although the Scor-It turned out to be a marvelous tool for scoring paper in order to create perfect folding seams in paper (really, it's brilliant!), the real score of the year was my beloved Husquvarna Viking Platinum sewing machine. It. is. amazing.

2010 was a strong year, with a Ford Ranger truck and a CLC wooden kayak strong contenders, but the winner was a bright red Hamilton Beach electric kettle I bought on a whim at Costco because of V's very English tea habit.  Sadly, it died by the end of 2012, and had to be replaced, so maybe the kayak and truck really DID win. :-)

That brings us to 2011, when the FABulous Iris plastic storage cases from Costco were purchased. The plastic case contains 12 more latching boxes that slide into place in the big case. Marketed as a place to keep photographs, the small cases are the PERfect size for my Copic markers, and for a slew of other items, too. Pencils, pens, watercolours, and on and on and on. I have all the cases filled, and could probably fill more.

2012 the best product that came into my life wasn't a purchase, but rather a gift. The Derwent Rep was generous enough to give me a set of 36 Inktense penciles and 12 Inktense blocks.  I loved these so much that I wrote a full review, if you're interested. That was the year I also snagged a set of five metal plan drawers for $100!  You know, the kind architects use?  Yep, I now have a place for all my watercolour and handmade papers, and so much more.  Fabulous addition to my art life!

2013 was a year in which the best product was something I bought for someone else.  Steel-toed boat shoes for V.  As a Sailmaker, V is constantly working around boats and boatyards, both of which are NOT safe places at all.  He has to have shoes that make no marks on boats, are skid resistant, and look good.  In the past, he's purchased Sperry's, the leading boat shoe manufacturer.  The problem with Sperry's shoes is three-fold: 1) they offer zero support 2) they wear out very fast, and 3) they're extremely expensive ($150ish) compared to other brands.  So I looked around for a more industrial shoe that fit the aforementioned criteria. And I found a model that has the additional plus of steel toes, something that is very nice to have when working daily in an industrial setting.  Made by Rockport, and selling for a reasonable $100, these leather shoes have  a steel toe, electrical hazard protection, and the essential slip and oil resistant sole. Oh, and they look good, too!

For myself, 2013's best product was the funny old solid maple rocker I got for $15 that I use every. single. day.

Last year, my favourite purchase was a beautiful and LARGE tryptich print of salmon I got (again) for $15 (thrift stores are so wonderful!), but the best product was the fantastic Daylight Foldi led light that can be powered by battery, usb from the computer, or off plain old 110ac in the wall.  It folds up, comes with a carrying bag, and is deLIGHTfully portable, allowing me phenomenal light when I need it, even while out on our boat for a cruise.  HIGHly recommend these lights.

There are many other purchases I have loved the past fifteen years - a red couch, a marvelous little handmade black walnut cabinet that holds my stone fetish collection, some dvds that continue to give me great pleasure, and so MANY wonderful additions to my art supplies.  I have no idea what 2015 will bring, of the abundance that will certainly arrive, or which will be the stand-outs, but I look forward to it all.

Easing the Heartbreak

Since age 17, I have dealt with Psoriasis.  The past fifteen years, exacerbated by two separate chronic autoimmune diseases, the psoriasis turned especially nasty.  When I went in for treatment at the beginning of the year, I had three of the five types of psoriasis, plus psoriatic arthritis - a form in which the disease invades the bone.

I was a real mess, and totally miserable.  But I got very, very lucky in landing a doctor who really cares - a HEALER.  She fought for me with the insurance company and I was granted entry to the impossibly magical world of Humira, a drug that costs, on AVERAGE about $3,000 a month.  And from my point of view, it's worth every penny.

What Humira does, basically, is inhibit my T-cells, the very thing that is responsible for the cellular malfunction of my body.  Essentially, my skin cells reproduce at a MAD rate, which is what causes the piling up and sloughing of skin that is psoriasis.  Of course that means I'm at considerably increased risk of infections, which makes shopping, traveling, anyplace with crowds a little riskier than it is for most of you.

But here's the reason I'm telling you all this - the effect of this drug goes way, WAY beyond the physical aspects.  And the physical aspects are considerably more horrific than just bad skin.  Psoriasis has been linked in more recent years to systemic inflammation and systemic metabolic disorders, including cardiovascular ones that affect the heart.  Studies indicate that the more severe the manifestation of psoriasis, the greater the risk one has of developing Cardiovascular Disease.  So believe when I tell you I am beyond grateful for Humira.  As I told the Dermatologist "It's fucking miraculous!"  She told me, through tears of joy, "You are the reason I decided to go specialise in Dermatology." My skin is totally clear for the first time in 45 years, and I can't stop running my hands over it just for the amazing sensations I haven't even been ABLE to feel in all that time.

However it's not the physical, but the psychological part of the healing that has taken place I want to share with you.

Over the years, I learned a lot about patience by fielding all the questions and comments about my skin.  "What did you DO to yourself!?" "How did you get burned?" "What's wrong with you?" "Does it itch/hurt/burn?"  or "Oh my friend had that, but she took ___ and it went away." "You know that's caused by not taking good enough care of yourself, right?" "I don't know why you don't get that fixed?" or my favourite "Ewww...stay away from me, I don't want to get that!"  *sigh*  For the record, psoriasis is NOT contagious, and there IS no cure, only treatment, most of which I have tried.  I learned to deal with uninformed (a much nicer word than ignorant) comments over the years, in the process educating folks along the way, but the hardest thing to deal with has always been the stares.  I understand, I really do.  Different draws our eye, and anything that looks like a wound is possibly dangerously different, and thus acts like a strong magnet to eyes.  This is a very basic, instinctual safeguard we have built in, we are programmed to immediately recognise different and react appropriately.  To avoid the glances and outright stares, I learned to hide my skin with clothing.  I could easily hide the patches on my torso and my legs with clothing I normally wore, but my arms could only be hidden by long sleeves. I spent the past 45 years wearing long sleeves, even in the heat of 30 Texas summers.  Yeah...not a lot of fun, but at least it avoided the stares and constant explanations.

Medieval medical practitioners located the
problem with psoriasis in the brain, of course.

Another time I'll talk about other psychological aspects; intimate knowledge I am just becoming aware of as I live each new day with smooth skin.  It's enough for you to know that I am sitting here, typing this while wearing a sleeveless t-shirt, something I haven't worn since about 1980.  I actually went to the grocery wearing a three-quarter sleeved blouse the other day!  Every day, I automatically reach for something from my closet that will cover me to the wrist, and I struggled not to look only at long-sleeved garments while out shopping with a friend recently.  That same friend later reminded me to change into something short sleeved when I complained of being hot, a solution that simply hadn't occurred to me.  I'm finding it profoundly difficult to get used to the idea that I can wear anything but long sleeves, but I'll get there.  Besides, it means I'll need some new clothes, and that's carrot enough for this girl!

If you or someone you know has psoriasis or would like more information about psoriasis, or if you'd like to help fund the ongoing efforts in finding better treatment, even possibly finding a *gasp* a cure, a good place to start is the National Psoriasis Foundation.

29 Faces in February

Last July(ish), I started a project.  One face a day for a year.  So when I saw the 29 Faces in February project, I thought I'd join in the fun, sharing some of the faces that are slated for my book.

So let's get started!  Here's Face No. 1, named Barbra for what I hope are obvious reasons. :-)

"Barbra"
watercolour, 3.5x2.5"

Be sure to check out all the other artist's, too, and come back here tomorrow for another face...

29 Faces in February